Shay's Self Help: "Why he always...."

OK LADIES! My girls and I always used to always complain about guys doing something annoying that really got on our LAST nerves. A classic line I hear all the time begins with "Why he always..." It could be "Why he always textin in front of me?" or "Why he always goin out to the club?"....Whatever your "Why he always" ends with, remember this: IT'S BECAUSE YOU LET HIM.

Now please don't get me wrong...I'm not talking about being some control-type-of-female. What I mean is that when you first start dating a guy, you might think it's ok to let "some stuff slide" that you're uncomfortable with because you don't want him to think you're uptight or crazy. BUT WHY? Ladies, why waste time letting him do something you are clearly uncomfortable with? If it's something reasonable like texting while you're trying to have a convo, THEN TELL HIM! Never sit there and give that dumb smile like everything is ok, if it's not. If he's goin to the club everytime he gets an invite on facebook then TELL HIM you would like to go out on that Thirsty Thursday. 9 times out of 10 he won't mind doing someting different for a change. If you get mad because he never says thank you or asks for things in a nice way then TELL HIM...let him know that you feel kinda disrespected. Most guys aren't being rude intentionally, they are just so used to not having to have proper manners that they have gotten comfortable.

The key in any "TELL HIM" situation is to remember these two things.
1) Don't wait til it's too late- if a guy sees that you don't (or are acting like you don't) care about his actions then why is he going to change? To him, it seems that you are satisfied...MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS & they have NO DESIRE to try because that is just extra work they will never feel like putting in! Be up front with your man at all times...he'll appreciate you.
2) Don't be a B*TCH about it- if you are going to keep it 100 with your feelings about his bad habit then don't be rude. Let him know why you are irritated without the eyes rollin, neck rollin, hand gestures, and the infamous suckin your teeth. Guys tense up and automatically get on the defense when they see you getting an attitude.